I am so not.... a Sarong Party Girl...

There was this discussion between Chris, Sammie and Me about me and Chris being a Sarong Party Girl the well known SPG if a Singaporean happen to date a white man. Chris is dating Ryan who is an Australian and Me dating a Dutchie. So Chris insist we both are Sarong Party Girl and Sammie agreed. I beg to differ and I deny being one because I am not one that only going for White Man and not local guys. Note the word "ONLY", SPG are girls that only goes for white guys, local guys does not appeal to them and also SPG are commonly one that goes with a local guy because of their wealth; supposingly rich? That's totally not me.. I love our local guys, but I just happen to not meet anyone local that can steal my heart up to date. To me, guys are just guys, there are some guys that are specifically more romantic than another, there are also some that does not express themselve much, whether or not they are white or local asian guy. The only different is the culture and with that being an asian woman, I'm still struggling to learn to live with the cultural difference. Its not the best part of a relationship but its just something that I have to live with since I choose to be with one.

I hate to be addressed as a SPG because it just didn't sound right. I hate it when I get stares from local man and woman alike when Jos and me expressed passion openly. Not just because of the passion, more because he is white and I'm local singaporean girl. So? really whatis wrong with dating a white?

I was briefly explaining to Jos about SPG and now he cannot stop calling me SPG which I hated and really regret even explaining the term SPG. To make him understand the term SPG, I search on the world wide web on my iphone and we read them together. Read on... this is what I found:

The SPG is typically an attractive Asian girl who spots waist length jet black hair on her petite body, and maintains her brown skin by sun tanning on the beach during the weekends. In a nutshell, she is the complete opposite of a Caucasian woman. She despises local men, and will only go out with you if you are white, rich and well, just white. Many young and beautiful Asian girls have been spotted at pubs canoodling with white men. Never mind that the men are fat, balding, and openly leering. To put it simply, if you are white, you get lucky. SPG are generally gold-digger waiting to be laid by white man and be married to europe or american.

And honestly, not trying to defend myself, I'm none of the above. Agree? My man is not rich.... and no I'm so not going to Europe, he is coming to Singapore! LOL! Seriously, all my life I've dated local guys and not that I've not met any white, I have! Just didn't meet the right white for me to go gaga over. So really, I cannot agree I am a SPG. But if you have to insist then so be it.

Now read on....

The modern day sarong party girl however, has discarded that old image and gone through a revamp greater than our legendary Singapore River . She has a career, can sometimes be a fanatic of skin whitening products and definitely does not go after white men just for the money. You are more likely to find her in Balaclava than Orchard Towers , and she certainly owns a more creative wardrobe of varied colours. Everyone knows that the skimpy all black outfit is so last year. However, the one thing that will never change is the white men that accessorizes this new generation of sarong party girls.

A lot of local men get bitter when they see the local women dating white men, because they feel threatened and assume that the women just see them as inferior to their Caucasian counterparts. In the popular local forum OhGenki, much has been expressed about such relations. When speaking on the topic, the responses from the women and men show opposite ends of the scale, with the females showing nonchalance and the males expressing disgust and irritation. The following excerpt is taken from the forum.

Not all foreigners here are rich, well travelled...etc.
I am not into bashing them, but here are some facts and you would be surprised:

the rich ones are normally the CEOs. board of directors...etc these are usually out of touch to you and normally they are in the late 50s and above. And you mean they are cute?
most middle level or ground level foreigners (which possibly are the ones that you may come in touch with) are normally the rejects of their own countries - they could not find a decent job or are being politically oustracised at their own backyard before being posted overseas - they have no choice.
given the choice they would not want to travel their pay is not high as many of you would have imagined, many are drawing local terms now

How do I know? Go figure out. Heh!
So, before you made that plunge do your research first...

Ending my post with a Sarong Party Girl with her Ang Moh!!! Cheers!



P.S. Life isnt fair... get use to it! xoxo